This time of year is always filled with so many want tos and shoulds. It’s great, in many ways — I think the desire to evolve and better yourself are both wonderful qualities to have. But there’s one downside to always wanting the next best thing. I feel like sometimes, I forget to even appreciate what I have. Does this happen to you?
This is especially true with work related matters. As I look back on the last year, I can’t help but be proud of everything I’ve accomplished. That feeling lasts for a hot second before I find myself questioning where to go next, what else I can do, what I should update, and more. Especially in the online world, where things move and change so quickly, it’s easy to feel like you’re getting left behind, or, unfortunately, like what you do is often not good enough. For me, it’s always a balance to know when and where to push myself ahead, and when to just chill out and be satisfied.
In my own case, I spent so many years at jobs I didn’t like, dreaming about a life I wanted. Then I spent years working on building it. At times it’s still surreal to me that I started out at Point A and couldn’t see Point B on the horizon at all. And then I somehow managed to find myself there. For the record, Point B is a pretty awesome place to be, but I wonder, “What’s next? Where’s Point C?” And then I chastise myself and think, “But I’m happy with how things are now. Calm down for two seconds and enjoy it!” And then the argumentative side of my brain reasons, “But if you’re not thinking ahead and anticipating your next steps and your new goals, you’re bound to miss out on something big!” For now, I’m trying to take each day as it comes, plan what I can, and sit back and enjoy the ride the rest of the time. Because really, if you’re not doing the last part, what’s the point of life anyway?
How do you manage the two sides — the part of you that is content and happy, and the part that longs to arrive at Point B (or C…or D)? How do you strike the balance between pushing yourself, and not driving yourself insane? Inquiring minds want to know!