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Happy New Year!!! I can hardly believe that 2010 is gone and I suspect most of you feel the same. I swear it’s something about the 2000s….everything just keeps getting faster and faster!

Last year around this time, I set a few goals for myself in 2010. Walk to work as much as possible. Take more photos. Write more. Stay in better touch with friends and family. Keep up with French lessons. Save money. And let go — as in, stop getting anxious over nothing.

I can’t say that I met and mastered every single one of these goals (um, yeah, walk to work as much as possible? Around March or so, it was decided that MUNI was a much better gig), but I certainly like to think I made baby steps and even large strides in some areas.

I’m not beating myself up too much for not meeting all of my 2010 goals, because the reality is, it was (was…so weird to type that) a pretty amazing year. We spent 10 days in Paris, which I’ve decided is the greatest city in the world and a place that Joe and I will always return to for relaxation, inspiration and some seriously good cheese. We took lots of weekend trips together. I saw my cousin (who in some ways is like a brother to me, as we’re both only children) graduate from high school and get into his first choice college. I re-established some relationships with college friends and am so thankful I did. I had a job all year, and not only that, but I kind of like it! And of course, the Giants won the World Series.

It’s almost difficult to list out all the things that happened in 2010, because it was one of the most full, fun and peaceful years I’ve had in recent memory. I’m grateful for it. But I’m also eager to see what new adventures 2011 could bring.

And with that, I present to you this year’s only resolution, courtesy of ThxThxThx. I saw it the other day when I first came across the site, and I knew right then and there that this was a promise I wanted to make to myself in 2011:

Here’s to twenty eleven. Make it a good one.

 

Oh, the things we do to look good.

I’m in pain. I’m in serious pain, my butt muscles are on fire, and when the instructor says, “Only 10 more of these!” I think I am going to die. I’m in the middle of my 4th class at Pilates ProWorks, and all of a sudden, I’m really regretting signing up for a 4-month contract package. After all, I hate working out.

But here’s a universal truth about Pilates that I’ve figured out rather quickly: hurts so bad during, hurts so good after. I’m only a few classes in, but I’m pretty much hooked. This from the girl who, very literally, had not seriously worked out in a full year.

Oh my god, that sounds so pathetic.

My issues with exercise are this. I grew up dancing, like hardcore. From the ages of 3 through 16, I was a dancer. During the last few years of it, I was at the studio 3 to 4 times a week for hours and hours on end. I grew up with my butt muscles completely concave, and didn’t realize that wasn’t normal (or the sign of a majorly in shape tush) until I stopped dancing.

For a long time, it’s been difficult for me to find a workout routine that I really enjoyed, because for me, dance had always been so fun. I have tried pretty much everything you can think of: a regular gym membership in which I do nothing but elliptical and lift weights (boring), yoga (boring…though I admit you sleep really well afterwards!), running (VERY boring),  kickboxing (fun for three classes, boring after), even rock climbing (FUN…but deep and dark in the Mission and totally inconvenient to get to).

So Victoria, why not go to adult dance classes? Well, I did. When we lived downtown, it was very easy to go to the SF Dance Center. But now that we live in the Inner Rich, it’s not as convenient to get down there, and it’s not in an area where a girl dressed in spandex should be walking around solo after dark.

Hence, the lack of  a workout regimen SINCE TWO THOUSAND AND NINE.

Okay, so why the sudden interest in joining a gym of any kind? I actually have my good high school friend Phil to thank for that.

Phil is getting married next summer to his longtime lady friend Kaiba. I was super stoked when I received their save-the-date about a month ago, and immediately took a gander at their wedding website.

(TANGENT: I am a total wedding website stalker. Those things go up on Facebook? I’m all over it. I love seeing what people register for — the good, the bad, the ugly. Once a co-worker of mine showed me a registry of a wedding she was attending in which the bride registered for light bulbs, laundry detergent and every single Yankee Candle available from Bed, Bath & Beyond. But that’s another story).

Phil and Kaiba’s wedding sounds like it’ll be super fun, a summer time fête in Austin, where we all grew up. A little non-traditional, the ceremony will take place at Barton Springs, and afterward, everyone is invited to jump into the Spring along with the happy couple. Cute, and so, so them. (PS, Phil, if you are reading this, no guarantees that I will partake. All of my wedding attire is dry clean only).

This all sounded well and good until I got to the part about the reception. It’s going to be fun and casual, with a pool party/swimming element included. Ehhhh….quoi?

In case you hadn’t heard, people who don’t work out for a year are generally not well suited to be prancing around in a bikini. I’m by no means overweight, but I’m not…oh, what’s the word….toned. The thought of a pool party with lots of high school friends — some I may not have seen in years — was enough to get my ass to the first class available at Pilates ProWorks.

So yes. Thus far, I’ve done 3 pilates reformer classes, and one TRX class, also known as You Won’t Be Able to Sit on the Toilet Without a Handrail for the Next Two Days class. In fact, I did the TRX class on Sunday, was still sore yesterday, went to Pilates anyway last night, and now I’m pretty sure I’m paralyzed for the rest of the week. Oy vey.

My first day at the studio I waited for class to start alongside a woman reading a bridal magazine. I wonder if it’s common for them to have clients who are working out to get ready for someone else’s wedding?

Okay, so enough about my new workout regimen. What do you guys like to do to workout? Is there any type of workout you particularly hate? Is there any type of workout you particularly hate during, but love after??

{All images courtesy of Pilates ProWorks. PS — If you’re in SF and interested in joining their studio or taking a class there, you can check out their extremely well designed site here, or their Facebook page}

She works hard for the money

Okay, confessions time.

I’m bad at saving money. Really, really bad.

Wait, let me amend that. I’m not so bad that I’m in severe debt or anything like that. I pay off my credit card bill each month. I even have an IRA and a 401k.

I’m just terrible at putting money aside for that rainy day fund. You know the one. The one that helps you out when you are coveting a new pair of boots for fall. The one that helps you pay for a last minute weekend getaway to Cabo. The one that allows you to spend a few extra days in Paris to make your annual vacation magical. Or, most importantly, the one that is there for you if you get sick or get laid off.

Yeah, that one. I’m horrible at that one.

{Image via Patterson Maker & Gadabout. prettystuff.tumblr.com}

I suspect that a lot of women my age are in this same boat. We’re not necessarily irresponsible with money. But, we go out with our friends. Have cocktails. Buy crap at Sephora. Get our hair did. Find five shirts on sale at J.Crew and can’t say no. And then, after all that, we pay rent. We’re well meaning, and are conscious of the fact that it’s important to save. We keep thinking “Next year. Next year I’m going to put away $X-thousand dollars. And it’ll be great.”

And then we don’t.

It’s a vicious cycle, and this month I decided to make a change. So did a friend of mine.

We were eating lunch, chatting, and she mentioned this exact topic. It was such a relief to hear that someone my age felt similarly about not remembering to save. Tough as it is to look in the mirror and realize I haven’t made saving money a huge priority, it made me feel a little better to know I wasn’t alone.

“Okay, that’s it,” I told her, “We’re ending this now. When we get to a computer, we’re going to immediately create automatic withdrawals into our savings account. And, let’s plan on giving each other $20 a week. We can each make a piggy bank, and put each other’s money in it. You can’t go to the other person and ask for your money unless you really, really need it, or reach a savings goal.”

I’m pretty excited about this new plan. At first, it was off-putting to think about $20 a week plus an additional couple-hundred into savings every month, on top of all the other expenses. But when I costed it out, I realized $20 is SO easy to put aside. Don’t eat lunch out for two days; bring it instead. Boom. There’s your $20.

The more I thought about all this, the more I wanted to kick myself for how simple it really is. And it also got me noodling on some tips that I think will help me, which I wanted to pass on. Of course, take these with a grain of salt. Like I said, I’m not the world’s authority on saving money. But everyone has to start somewhere. Right?

Set yourself up for success

Use your bank’s automatic withdrawal services to deduct money from your paycheck bi-monthly. Of course, the tough part is limiting your access to your savings account, otherwise those of us without willpower (raising hand) can just move the money back over into checking. The solution?

Find products that meet your needs

I have a savings account with ING, and since there are no access points other than an online interface (i.e., no debit card, ATM or teller access), and since it takes a few days to transfer money from my ING into my checking, that helps me avoid temptation. To use the money in this account, I have to plan ahead. Also, ING tends to have a pretty good interest rate.

Stash in multiple places

I once heard some story about a woman in Israel who had put money under mattress for years and years. It didn’t earn any interest, obviously, but over the course of her life she accrued over a million dollars in savings. I’m sure she had no idea she had that much under there! By putting money in a few different places — a CD, a savings account, and even a jar — you’ll probalby be surprised at how much it all adds up when you really do need it.

Get a saving buddy

Find a good friend you trust to help keep you accountable. If you’re saving money with a friend, they’re going to notice when you roll into brunch with a new handbag.

Learn to budget

My biggest downfall is that I didn’t learn how to do this early enough. But, I’m catching up with services like Mint.com. Mint is a free service that helps you visually see where your money is going. There are also a ton of software programs out there that can help you do the same thing. However, they can cost a lot of money — which I always found pretty ironic.

Set your goals

Part of my problem in saving is that I never had a clear picture of what I was saving for. This past year, when I was planning a big trip to France, I realized the value of setting a savings goal. I knew I needed X amount by a certain date. Even if you’re not saving for anything special, setting a goal like “I want to have ten thousand in a liquid savings account by this date, just in case I need to leave my job, or have a medical issue” can be a motivator.

Don’t “binge” save

You recognize you need to save. You do great for a month — limiting how much you eat out, not shopping, stashing some money away into your savings. After a month of being good, you splurge and have a few weeks where you overdo it. Your monthly credit card statement shows up, and you panic. And then you’re back to square one, feeling bad about yourself. Trying to save like this is no better than binge dieting. Live a little! I’ve realized that I’ll be more successful at saving money if I don’t beat myself up for not putting away a million dollars by next year. Building a nest egg takes time. I have to be okay with that. Save early, safe often, not in unrealistic spurts.

I’m definitely still learning tricks and setting boundaries for myself. What are some of your tips for saving money? I’ve love to hear them!


Goal Update

It’s been so long since I even mentioned the 2010 Goals, you probably assumed I’d given up on them. Well, gentle reader, though given up is probably not an accurate description of the state of things, there’s no denying that the goals could have progressed a bit more. But I’m cutting myself some slack. I bet 90% of people who made a New Year’s resolution have already forgotten what it was.

2011 Goal: Stop making excuses for myself.

Let’s take a closer look and see how things are going, shall we? (more…)

Postcard from…

Cabo San Lucas.

I’m not there anymore, but uploading the beachy images I snapped there two weekends ago made me wish I were.

There’s a lot to be said for weekend getaways, my friends.